Will upper tooth extraction cause premature aging?

Hello, thank you for reading. I'm 30 years old and have decided to get lingual braces after never having braces when I was younger, but having a slight overbite and crooked teeth that have bothered me for some time. Upon my last consultation, the orthodontist told me I would need to have 2 upper teeth extracted; numbers 5 and 13 due to my overbite and a cross bite on the right side. I was ready to have this done until talking to my friend who is also an orthodontist who told me, after looking at my mouth, and some molds of my teeth that I have from a whitening tray, that he would STRONLY advise against having teeth removed. He said it will cause a negative aging effect based on my lip posture, etc and that it will initially look good, but in 10 years or so, the effects will not be pleasing for me. When I asked my orthodontist about this he said that there was no way to fix my bite without removing teeth, and that he could straighten my teeth wihout extractions, but it would not correct my bite and my lower arch would be "a mess" and also assured me this would not cause premature ageing. I'm happy to send my professional orthodontic images so you can understand my case more thoroughly. I would gladly welcome any feedback. I know every orthodontist treats differently, but I absolutely do not want to regret this decision, as it is very expensive, and one I've contemplated a long time. If it's going to make me less attractive or more aged, I would rather keep my existing smile. Thoughts?? Thank you so much